Many people throughout my life have asked the question? “Jordan, does anything get you mad or upset?” To be quite honest, there are not many things that frustrate/bother/irritate me. Certain things will get my voice to raise… Laurie can attest to multiple heated theological phone debates (not with her…lol), but for the most part, I’d like to think that I am pretty easy going.
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There is something that certainly does make me scratch my head… Over the past year, as I have interacted in this “new” endeavor called marriage, I have heard individuals say things like: “Aww, look at them, they are just newlyweds.” While the physical reality of my wife and I being just married is true, there is often a connotation that comes with the comment or thought. Please allow me to explain.
Certain things that I do to express my love for my wife such as holding her hand, opening the door, offering praise (and other things) are categorized in the “newlywed” bin. As if these things are what you do when you are first married. We look at it as if that's something that used to be, but now we’re past that stage. Now, please do not misunderstand me… If you do not open the door for your wife, I’m not saying that you do not love her. However, are there things that you used to do in this “newlywed” stage to show that you loved or cared for your spouse? I realize that this is different for every relationship, but are there things that have been dropped out of the “newlywed” stage?
Ephesians 5 is claimed to be a pivotal passage in regards to the marriage relationship. The simplicity of Scripture is easier read, than done, but notice the verse below.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; -Ephesians 5:25
I have one simple thought in regards to this verse and article. Paul does not break up the thought of marriage and love into differing stages. He simply says, “husbands love your wives.” Love in this passage is a present, active verb. That means day-by-day, year-by-year, continually love your spouse.
I’m determined, to never leave the “newlywed” stage. 5, 10, 15 years down the road I want to keep doing things that show my wife that I love her. While that is different in every relationship, the question remains: Have you left the newlywed stage?